The Messy Post

Katherine Warren

I was having coffee with a dear friend on a cold, rainy morning.

I have recently convinced her generous soul to be my accountability partner on this blogging journey because I read a book that said I needed one. We chatted a bit about life, work, home projects, you know, as friends do. I told her I was taking a little time away from the world (2 days to be exact) because I was struggling to maintain my balance and couldn’t quite find my way out.


After I shared my mini break with her, I quickly put back on my cheery voice and said, “so anyway, how are you doing with your goal for the month?” (I’m serving as her accountability partner for a wellness goal.) She stopped, looked me dead in the eye and said, “I see what you’re doing, and we’re not going to do that, back to YOU, how are YOU doing?” And that’s when I welled up, teary-eyed in the middle of Starbucks.


The queen of redirection from herself had just lost her crown. Thank God for real friends who see through you.

I told her I was actually in the middle of a really hard time, I told her I was desperately reaching for every tool in my tool kit and still coming up short. I was drowning in death anniversaries of both parents, on the brink of burnout from a lot of tough personal and professional obligations, and something (yet to be determined) is seriously triggering one of my main trauma responses – the fear of losing everything I’ve fought so hard for. I have to power through most days right now and end each evening and weekend completely spent, making any “fun” I have planned feel more like yet another obligation.


“I’m napping every weekend!” I told her. “Both days most weekends!” “Wow,” she said, “that is totally not you.” Again, bless her.


In an effort to keep me from completely losing my shit in Starbucks we continued on with our work. We reviewed my accountability assignment and I shared with her that I was struggling with what to write this week when I’m in this head space. Who am I to share advice on balance when I’m feeling as far as humanly possible from it??

“You need a messy post,” she said. “Write about this.”


So here it is, a reminder to you and to me that some seasons of your life are a downright struggle. And that it’s perfectly ok to be a melty mess AND still share what you know about the world, AND still have people learn from you, be led by you, etc. You can still show up and have a seat at the table when things are hard.

In fact, I think choosing to still show up, even when it’s messy, might be a huge opportunity for me to continue to heal and grow.


So what else am I doing to try to navigate my way through the mess? More yoga, a few more 2-minute meditations, but I’m also trying to prioritize time for the things I used to like to do when I had more energy and more time. And reminding myself that even though I’m tired, these things will help, because I’m not physically exhausted, I’m mentally exhausted.


It took me a while to remember the things that used to bring me joy.


Here’s my list so far: driving long distances with music blaring, taking a slow tour around Whole Foods looking at all the new holiday food, taking longer walks in different locations and taking some mornings back for ME (not work or chores).


So that’s it, the messy post. I will report back on how all of this is going. In the meantime, I wish you a little sliver of peace from your mess, more time to do the things you love, and the wisdom to know it’s worth it.

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