A Real-Life Approach to Balanced Eating (Why 80/20 Works)

Katherine Warren

A realistic approach to healthy eating, balance, and enjoying food without restriction

You don’t need to overhaul your whole life to find balance with food.


If you’ve ever struggled with all-or-nothing thinking around eating, or felt like you’re either “on track” or completely off, you’re not alone. Real life doesn’t work that way, and your approach to food doesn’t have to either.

A more sustainable way to think about it is balanced eating. Not perfect, not rigid, but flexible enough to fit your actual life.


That’s where the 80/20 approach comes in.

Here's how (PS this is an excerpt from my
e-book).


Before I share, an important note: there is no requirement to be a certain shape or size to find balance. If you feel healthy, present, and comfortable in your skin, that's balance. If you feel strong, focused, and grounded, that's balance. And what that looks like physically will differ greatly for everyone.


I am a no-restrictions eater, but I balance my diet by trying to eat "healthy" and/or whole foods 80% of the time. The other 20% of the time, I eat whatever my heart desires and fully enjoy whatever social situation I'm in.

This week, that 20% will consist of slice(s) of pecan pie, my brother-in-law's out-of-this-world stuffing, rock star turkey, and wine. I will feel "Thanksgiving full" for my 20% this week, and will enjoy every minute of it.


Then I'll get back to that 80% healthy on the days I'm not gathering. I define “healthy” as things that make my body feel good, period. The 20% types of food tend not to fill me up like a plate full of veggies; they make me feel dehydrated and sluggish.


(One side note, I swear I can taste the love in food, call me cliche all you want. I'll 100% enjoy a greasy burger for my 20%, but I want it to be from a mom and pop shop that poured all their heart into that meal.)


Along with the 80/20 rule, I consider my diet like a bank account. I eat everything and anything I want, but I balance it out throughout the day:

  • If I have a sugary baked good for breakfast, I try for more veggies at lunch and more protein for dinner.
  • If I start my day with an omelet, I grab that ice cream bowl after dinner.
  • The same goes for portion sizes: more at one meal, less at the next.
  • I do pay attention to labels—calories, fat and sugar content, ingredient count, etc. Why? Because healthier food makes me feel better. Not because I am ruminating over the numbers.

This same approach can be used for more than just diet in your journey towards balance, here’s a blog on that.

Cheers to the start of your holiday week, friends! I hope it brings you a little bit more of whatever you most need. ❤️

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